Coaching ‘Aging’

As life catches up, perceptions of “change” change.
With age, beauty & sublimity of life sucks us into a bliss that’s written in wrinkles, longer comfortable silences & deepening eyes, seeing more divinity within everyone & everything, beyond the fading facades believed youthfully to be necessary for Worldly ways by the restless stages of life. These crutches of youthful insecurities too fade to be replaced by just plain gratitude for all that was & is.
Yes, time is the ultimate trainer & coach while, acceptance by the ‘coachee’ alone, the remission.

– Colonel Dilip Sharma

– Executive and Life Coach


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Of Husbands-Wives, The Tango & The Tussle

Between the stories of masters & their pecked-at-slaves, is a resurgent but a beautiful natural emotional World of love, care, procreation, responsibility, accountability, even while striving for building individual independent identities, achievements & soulful satiation!

This is also the natural order of the cosmos as seen in the nature surrounding us too, be it amongst microorganisms, the living seed-parent plants or fledgling-mature multi or monogamous animals, or the unemotional centrifugal & centripetal forces pulling both ways & yet maintaining the awesome momentary delicate balanced spectacle in the tango between galaxies, eclipsis, dancing or crashing entities, we sometimes see in space & in the non-living World!

Yes, every Couple has a World to themselves as well as to make the best of, build & hold wonderful memories, stories to inspire, educate their & our future societies, colonies, from beneath our feet to the horizons of space!

As humans we are just a mere set of entities endowed with lot of emotions to create and shape our participatory Universe, amongst uncountable more out there, yet unknown to us.

Let’s take ourselves a little more lightly! -Dilip

(Inspired by Ms Leena Pranjpe)

LEADERSHIP-1 : At The Inception Of A Team.

The basis of leadership is the team being led!

• Putting a team together physically & emotionally attuned collectively & equally motivated, mentally coordinated & prepared to do anything for the mission & each other is not just a dream but, it is the basic work of a leader at the very inception or at the very beginning of a task.

•Occasions where such team building is simultaneous as the mission progresses are, either commitment oriented where every member is selflessly keen on being on the team for the sheer experience & thrill of it, or the team members have been keenly selected for such cooperative indulgence.

•However most times, diverse specialities are required for a mission or task with varying degrees of involvement, being put together from diverse unconnected fields for best, unique & competitive results.

•Such common situations generally result in, either a detached limited commitment by some in the team or bruised emotions & sensitivities by others with limited or imagined roles.

•These commonplace situations call upon a dynamic leadership to conceive, foresee, assess and make remedial interventions well in time to avoid the team falling apart due to internal competition and the mission being compromised.

•The qualities required by leaders who lead teams facing such challenges day in & out in diverse fields of the Corporate World are the most foundational and yet at times the most difficult to muster.

• Positively, these qualities are easily developed with some efforts, if identified in time.

• These qualities, in short are –

~ Acceptability: Foremost, the leader has to be able to build his/her own acceptability amongst each of the team individually and collectively. This is as simple as it can be hard.

~ Nonjudgmental: Being nonjudgmental & trusting of the unknown members, enough to learn about & attune each member to the task on hand.

~ Ego: Putting aside ego long enough to be able to correctly assess the basic emotional & motivational levels of each member to bond and perform as a team.

~ Education & Knowledge: Learning, enough about each member’s special competencies so that the leader is able to call upon & apply these specialities, innovatively, in optimal measures, at crucial times to maintain the team’s momentum, snatch the initiative from the competition or change the narrative to the team’s advantage in the field the mission is launched in, is of paramount importance.

Clarity: The leader has be clear that the competencies as tools & weapons, are available to the team, through individual team members alone and these can be applied effectively only by the motivated & active involvement of each individual members, alone. Cross functioning of competencies can be fatal.

~ Respect: The above mentioned competencies will be available to the leader, as essential tools & weapons, only through mutual respect within the team members for each other, the task and most importantly, in their leader.

~ Bonding: With all the above mentioned knowledge, respect & acceptance in control, a leader can set a team on a good course of bonding together & individually, that will hold up the team as a league, a close knit body of competencies with a lot of flexibility to face any dynamic competition as a fast moving weapon retaining the initiative & momentum of its own narrative in the chosen field of contest.

• If the above mentioned is in place, a team will automatically be very well placed on the starting blocks, to undertake a challenging task whenever an opportunity is presented in any field.

– Dilip

To be continued ….

Light-up Your Own Path

“….and yet there’s a light deep within all of us, too! It’s, the knowledge about ourselves & all that constitutes ours, which lights up everything, from our depths to the deep outer space and even far beyond the physical view.
The dark never endures unless we are complacent & unwilling to learn. -Dilip

Good Morning Everyone



• Does respectfully ignoring actions of the arrogant & conniving, emboldened them & weaken you?
•Ignoring the question of strengths & weaknesses itself, is a better choice?
•Is choosing one’s aim in such a situation, for example choosing between – trying to improve the environment or being at peace with oneself, the moot question that should decide the course of action?
•If a combination of these is advocated, what should decide, how much is “enough” for a befitting riposte & will such an action coming from a person generally not viewed as an equisential, help at all?
•Does the solution lie in constant strife and continuous push back?

•In a fast populating World with reducing recreational spaces in the environment and in the minds, answers to these questions have become essential skills to happy, healthy, community living.

•While its all individualistic, a society has to start understanding the politely silent to avoid loosing last few who are happy not competing in the theatre of the absurd & un-urbane, that urban living is slowly regressing into.

– Dilip

(Painting Credits with Thanks – Rito Prieto @Fine Art America)

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Happiness is the elixir of life & is intoxicating, sometimes even at the cost of self-depreciation & loss! That then becomes, appeasement which is a parasite affecting judgement, personal effectiveness & allows others to take advantage, thus pushing the best into mediocrity. Appeasement always has a hidden rotting rat in it. Know that and make blissful equanimity & clinical correctness, the skill to excellence & the professional happiness norm! – Dilip

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