•Beliefs are always acquired mental anchorages for psychological comfort & are at best inflexible supports or at worst fuzy ideas of how the World should be or conditionally gyrating everything to a single point of view; but they are always debatable & never the original – ‘by birth’ attributes.
• A belief held by someone may not always be true for another person.
• Beliefs provide comfort in a life we create for ourselves.
•Everyone lives their own lives with different beliefs or none at all.
• Each is right and has the freedom to live an individual life.
•Neither can one live others lives nor can one debate another’s belief.
•A point of view from a single belief may lead some to pronounce judgements that suit their mind sets & provide comfort from that perspective.
•The truth for others may stem from other beliefs & find pronounced judgements silly, offensive or plain stuck up.
•The World, lives of people, circumstances & times, are dynamic & continuously evolving to adapt to the immediate or sustained requirements of the new ever changing dynamic in their own individual little universes.
•For example, a belief that necessarily made banging of feet on a tarmaced drill square in a weird manner an achievement, may change to an arthritic belief in later years!
•The only attribute nature built in to the DNA of all species at birth is of symbiotic existance & tools for that are love, understanding, acceptance of the other as they be with their attendant failings at various instants of their lives.
• Sometimes our own need for our own gratification in our own way, overrides the understanding that others too hold their beliefs in their own ways. Thus we ride roughshod, sargent-major style, on acceptance, understanding, love & attributes for symbiotic living.
• Isolation may not be a natural option, coexistence is in many ways a necessity. Symbiosis happens by going back to the DNA, not by species snipping and whipping each other because their very own beliefs have been violated.
– Dilip

Live & let live, happily in contentment.
Help where you can.

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Happy Life

” When the heart is pure, the mind is blissful, clarity prevails, the obvious is done & stated without animosity or fear.

On the flip, a single unresolved hidden skeleton, a needling feeling or memory, may force the best thoughts & advice to sound like Greek with or without punctuations!

The slate of the mind and the pump in the heart, are always our own to wipe & pace at will, with exercises called forgiveness to the self, brotherhood to all-around, acceptance of everyone as they are and just pure gratitude for just being.

We have to however raise ourselves a bit, for that in more ways than just material.”

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Life & Destiny

All existence, wether raging torrents or gentle gurgles of merriment, runs individual courses meandering across lifespans to its ultimate fulfillment, that destiny always, is.

The dynamic alone is its life, neither did it exist as such before, nor will, after.

Each moment is unique & incomparable to its own, very next.

Other lifelines may walk or float along, some may even dive in or adventurers attempt to block it too, but the momentum of destiny of every existence, always runs its full course, in its own suitable meanderings & time frames, subtlety or torrentially.

Existence is the merriment of the surface ripples, waves & swirling whirlpools, as well as the strong eddies & heaving currents scraping, pushing, sculpting the deep bottom of the, very core!

The thrill of existence is its dynamic uncharted flow.. Go with that… Enjoy it, that’s all we have.


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Have a great day ahead!

Good Morning Everyone

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Coaching ‘Aging’

As life catches up, perceptions of “change” change.
With age, beauty & sublimity of life sucks us into a bliss that’s written in wrinkles, longer comfortable silences & deepening eyes, seeing more divinity within everyone & everything, beyond the fading facades believed youthfully to be necessary for Worldly ways by the restless stages of life. These crutches of youthful insecurities too fade to be replaced by just plain gratitude for all that was & is.
Yes, time is the ultimate trainer & coach while, acceptance by the ‘coachee’ alone, the remission.

– Colonel Dilip Sharma

– Executive and Life Coach


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Of Husbands-Wives, The Tango & The Tussle

Between the stories of masters & their pecked-at-slaves, is a resurgent but a beautiful natural emotional World of love, care, procreation, responsibility, accountability, even while striving for building individual independent identities, achievements & soulful satiation!

This is also the natural order of the cosmos as seen in the nature surrounding us too, be it amongst microorganisms, the living seed-parent plants or fledgling-mature multi or monogamous animals, or the unemotional centrifugal & centripetal forces pulling both ways & yet maintaining the awesome momentary delicate balanced spectacle in the tango between galaxies, eclipsis, dancing or crashing entities, we sometimes see in space & in the non-living World!

Yes, every Couple has a World to themselves as well as to make the best of, build & hold wonderful memories, stories to inspire, educate their & our future societies, colonies, from beneath our feet to the horizons of space!

As humans we are just a mere set of entities endowed with lot of emotions to create and shape our participatory Universe, amongst uncountable more out there, yet unknown to us.

Let’s take ourselves a little more lightly! -Dilip

(Inspired by Ms Leena Pranjpe)

LEADERSHIP-1 : At The Inception Of A Team.

The basis of leadership is the team being led!

• Putting a team together physically & emotionally attuned collectively & equally motivated, mentally coordinated & prepared to do anything for the mission & each other is not just a dream but, it is the basic work of a leader at the very inception or at the very beginning of a task.

•Occasions where such team building is simultaneous as the mission progresses are, either commitment oriented where every member is selflessly keen on being on the team for the sheer experience & thrill of it, or the team members have been keenly selected for such cooperative indulgence.

•However most times, diverse specialities are required for a mission or task with varying degrees of involvement, being put together from diverse unconnected fields for best, unique & competitive results.

•Such common situations generally result in, either a detached limited commitment by some in the team or bruised emotions & sensitivities by others with limited or imagined roles.

•These commonplace situations call upon a dynamic leadership to conceive, foresee, assess and make remedial interventions well in time to avoid the team falling apart due to internal competition and the mission being compromised.

•The qualities required by leaders who lead teams facing such challenges day in & out in diverse fields of the Corporate World are the most foundational and yet at times the most difficult to muster.

• Positively, these qualities are easily developed with some efforts, if identified in time.

• These qualities, in short are –

~ Acceptability: Foremost, the leader has to be able to build his/her own acceptability amongst each of the team individually and collectively. This is as simple as it can be hard.

~ Nonjudgmental: Being nonjudgmental & trusting of the unknown members, enough to learn about & attune each member to the task on hand.

~ Ego: Putting aside ego long enough to be able to correctly assess the basic emotional & motivational levels of each member to bond and perform as a team.

~ Education & Knowledge: Learning, enough about each member’s special competencies so that the leader is able to call upon & apply these specialities, innovatively, in optimal measures, at crucial times to maintain the team’s momentum, snatch the initiative from the competition or change the narrative to the team’s advantage in the field the mission is launched in, is of paramount importance.

Clarity: The leader has be clear that the competencies as tools & weapons, are available to the team, through individual team members alone and these can be applied effectively only by the motivated & active involvement of each individual members, alone. Cross functioning of competencies can be fatal.

~ Respect: The above mentioned competencies will be available to the leader, as essential tools & weapons, only through mutual respect within the team members for each other, the task and most importantly, in their leader.

~ Bonding: With all the above mentioned knowledge, respect & acceptance in control, a leader can set a team on a good course of bonding together & individually, that will hold up the team as a league, a close knit body of competencies with a lot of flexibility to face any dynamic competition as a fast moving weapon retaining the initiative & momentum of its own narrative in the chosen field of contest.

• If the above mentioned is in place, a team will automatically be very well placed on the starting blocks, to undertake a challenging task whenever an opportunity is presented in any field.

– Dilip

To be continued ….

Light-up Your Own Path

“….and yet there’s a light deep within all of us, too! It’s, the knowledge about ourselves & all that constitutes ours, which lights up everything, from our depths to the deep outer space and even far beyond the physical view.
The dark never endures unless we are complacent & unwilling to learn. -Dilip

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